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- Men Are More Satisfied By Bromances Than Their Relationships
- Men may be more satisfied by bromances than their relationships
- The research study revealed a number of surprising findings
- What do men get from these relationships?
- Some men prefer talking about emotions with other men
- Men perceive women to be “regulators of behavior”
- 1) They Are Pretty Sensitive
- 3) Crowded Rooms Are Not For Them
- 5) Those Feelings Aren’t Going Away
- 6) They Give Great Advice
- 7) They Become Distracted Quite Easily
- Men Get More Satisfaction From Bromances Than Romantic Relationships
- Men prefer bromance to romance, study says
- Research: Men More Satisfied By Bromance
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Study Claims Men Are More Satisfied By Bromance Than Romance
Straight guys would rather open up to their male friends than their romantic partners. That's the overarching idea of a paper published yesterday in the journal Men and Masculinities.
In the small study, which compared men's friendships to their romantic relationships, researchers found that college-aged men get more emotional satisfaction their so-called “bromances.
” The authors note that although it's a good thing that men feel they can open up to their male friends, they might damage their relationships with women by not discussing important and personal topics with them, too. But multiple gender studies experts urged caution in applying these findings to the male population, and in pitting these relationships against each other.
For the study, researchers from the University of Winchester in England had a male interviewer ask 30 straight male undergraduates about their “bromances” and their relationships with girlfriends past and present.
And by bromance, the researchers meant “the closest of friendships between guys whereby nothing is off limits and there are no boundaries to what can be discussed,” says study author Adam White, a graduate student at the university who's pursuing a doctorate in sport and exercise.
“[It] has all of the qualities of a romantic relationship, without the sex.”
That's not the kind of academic background you'd tend to associate with a study this, but White notes that he and the other two authors do have a background in masculinities. He researches the intersection of sport and gender; Stefan Robinson explores young men's relationships; and Eric Anderson is a professor of sport, masculinities, and sexualities.
And before we go any further, let's discuss that study sample. The group was made up of 30 young, straight men, all but one of whom were white, and who were all pursuing majors in the sports department.
This group “is no closer a representation for all men as a rock found on the moon,” says Javon Johnson, a professor in the department of interdisciplinary, gender, and ethnic studies at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas.
Moving on. The authors set out to understand the similarities and differences between strong friendships and romantic relationships. The participants, who were all sophomores, overwhelmingly agreed that they could share more personal information—ranging from their innocent love of Taylor Swift music to their desire to be fingered during sex—with their “bros” than their girlfriends.
Given the inherent differences in the two bonds, it makes sense that people would share certain things with their friends that they wouldn't tell their SO. But several of the students also described their romantic relationships as an exchange: specifically, kindness and loyalty on his part for sex on her part.
Not only that, but the students assigned sexist traits to women when explaining their relationships. Exhibit A: “Women…take things more literally and get upset, whereas guys can laugh out their frustrations.
” B: “With men, it's over. But women are very good at remembering things.” C: “I'd say guys are less emotional about arguments.
” The guys thought their friends were more forgiving and less ly to a hold grudge, and were more open around them as a result.
“That's a pretty tired stereotype,” says Christia Brown, a developmental psychologist and professor at the University of Kentucky, whose work focuses on gender stereotypes.
She points out that from a young age, boys and girls are often raised to conform to social constructions of gender, with boys being taught to hide vulnerabilities and girls to verbalize their emotions.
“It's really that women are putting words on a common human experience, whereas men often aren't.”
Of course, the authors weren't the ones expressing the stereotypes, and they did mention them in their discussion, writing: “There was a tendency…to deliver sexist perspectives in a humorous and banterous way to deter accusations of sexism, and this is problematic.” They also noted that the design could have impacted the students' responses.
“We believe that the binary approach to questioning (ie bromances vs romances), and the fact that the interviewer was of the same sex as participants, may have subtly influenced the nature of the language used to describe women.
” But those acknowledgments are buried under one of the study's main takeaways: that men think they subject each other to less judgment and emotional reaction than women do, White says.
The authors point out that this study is limited in scope because of the small, specific sample, but White also wrote in an article for The Conversation that it “may well be” representative beyond the sample. And many headlines about these findings make the leap that we're talking about all men.
By reviving the idea that women are emotional and manipulative, some coverage of this study affirms misogynistic and paternalistic perspectives of women.
“Men, women, non-binary people, we all have emotions, but women have been characterized as emotional as an insult,” says Anita Revilla, chair of UNLV's department of interdisciplinary, gender, and ethnic studies.
And the tricky part about social constructions is that the more people reinforce them, the more normalized they become.
In subtle ways, the participants' responses also reaffirm stereotypes about men. One undergrad didn't want his girlfriend to come over when he was feeling down because he didn't want her to see him upset.
The T-Swift fan didn't want his girlfriend to know about his musical taste because he wanted to seem “manly” around her.
“You have boys growing up in a world where in middle school, if they show any kind of emotion or vulnerability in any way, they're usually called a homophobic slur,” Brown says.
Gender plays a role in social interactions, but not to the extent that women are better for this, and men are better for that. Pitting platonic and romantic relationships against one another and crowning one the “winner” in terms of satisfaction goes against everything we know about our mental, emotional, and social needs.
“Relationships are far messier than choosing one or the other,” Johnson says. “We have multiple relationships because humans are complex and dynamic and cannot receive everything we need from one other person.
” The fact that some young men feel they can be open and honest with their close male friends is a great thing—but it's emotionally naive for the participants to think that they can only get it from these male relationships, Brown says.
“These stereotypes are rooted in power differentials that have led to people being in all kinds of relationships where men and women are unequal,” Revilla explains, often as a result of women being in situations where they don't have power among men.
“Women know that these relationships are overwhelmingly unequal, and they're socialized to either accept that, or critique it.” It's in decisive men being called “the boss” and superior women being called “bossy.” It's in grown men calling grown women “girls.
” And it's in people pushing the idea that women have uncontrollable, unpredictable emotional reactions to everyday situations.
Some of the coverage of this study claims that the bromance is “worrying for women” and that it “threatens heterosexual relationships” because it means “guys don't want to get married.
” But, Johnson asks, “What does it mean to threaten hetero relationships? If [the bromance] does threaten them, then doesn't that reinforce the notion that hetero relationships are 'normal' and everything else is attempting to challenge what 'ought' to be?”
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Men More Satisfied By Bromances Than Their Relationships, Study Finds
Listen up guys and gals, I have to make a public service announcement for anyone who’s in a relationship right now.
If you’re currently in a fully committed relationship with a man, or maybe you’ve only just started seeing them and are in that ‘what are we’ phase, you might want to pay attention to what I’m about to tell you.
Because a recent study has found that young men get more emotional satisfaction bromances than they do romantic relationships. Yikes.
The study, published in Men and Masculinities, wanted to find out how much bromances mattered in comparison to romantic relationships in the 21st century.
And apparently, the answer was ‘a lot’ because the 30 heterosexual males they interviewed mostly determined that a bromance offered them more – in terms of emotional disclosure, social fulfilment, and conflict resolution – than the lives they shared with their girlfriends.
Sorry girls, it looks we’re gonna have to take a back seat with this one as it doesn’t look we’re about to win them over anytime soon. You only have to look at the celebrity bromances of Ryan Reynolds and Hugh Jackman, Obama and Joe Biden, and Ant and Dec to know that we’re screwed.
And to be honest with you, I’m not even bothered. Look how happy they are and tell me that you don’t want your boyfriend to have a bromance that!
As reported by TIME, the authors of the study say it’s largely a good thing that intimate male friendships have become more socially acceptable in recent years. However, they warn that the shift could lead to weaker bonds among couples.
The study itself comprised of 30 heterosexual men who were second-year college students and had been in a relationship before, or were currently. It’s at this point I’d advise you to take it with a pinch of salt because its reach is fairly limited.
Every man studied had at least one ‘bromantic’ friend which they reported sharing secrets with, expressing love to, or sleeping in the same bed with at some time or another. It was because of this that the authors wanted to compare these relationships to their romantic ones.
And the results were eye-opening to say the least. Overall, the men said they felt less judged than their close male friends than by their girlfriends, and found it easier to overcome conflicts, share their emotions, and discuss sensitive health information with them than with their romantic partners.
Wow, it’s not a good day for us gals is it? Getting called judgey and being told we’re not easy to talk to about important matters all in one day. Jeez, give a girl a break will ya?
Lovers are temporary. A bromance can last a lifetime.
Which, when you think about it, is just a nicer way to say bros before hoes really, isn’t it.
Now if you’ll just excuse me while I make sure my boyfriend isn’t secretly messaging Hugh Jackman…
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I feel there is just a very big difference in the expectations associated with these kinds of relationships. A romantic relationship almost feels transactional in a weird way. You're putting yourself out there on the dating market so other people can judge if you'd make a worthy long term partner with all the commitments and responsibilities that entails.
Will you be good enough sexually? Are your economic prospects good enough to support a family? Are you healthy enough both physically and mentally that your partner can continue to enjoy you and the benefits they get from you without you becoming a burden to them? Etc.
Maybe we'd to imagine the fantasy love story world where you fine the One for whom none of that matters and just loves you for you, but you're missing something if you don't recognize that all of these factors are in the minds of most people trying to date.
So in this kind of relationship, any vulnerabilities you reveal are potential marks against your viability as a partner to this person. It also doesn't help that there's this social pressure to make romantic relationships exclusive/binary/discrete.
It would take a major, irreconcilable conflict for me to explicitly break off from a friendship, but it's expected behavior as a part of romantic relationships to specifically terminate the relationship if one or both partners feel that the relationship isn't meeting the standards they expect of it even if the two people otherwise may still consider each-other friends.
On the other hand, with close, same sex platonic relationships, there are no such expectations, obligations, etc for how the friends should relate to one another. We're friends because we each other, because it's better to have social support than not, etc.
There's an understanding that friends can and should help each other with their problems when they can, but also that it's understandable if they can't help beyond lending an ear and a shoulder.
If you tell a friend you got fired from work, they don't have to start considering whether or not they need to stop being your friend because you aren't financially stable.
Also, something I've been thinking about: It's not even super clear to me what the personal value is to a long term romantic relationship.
It used to be that people needed to have families to keep the population going, to be socially accepted, to have access to acceptable sexual stimulation, to have kids, (and/or a tiny free labor force) to have any socially acceptable relationship with someone of the other sex, etc.
But nowadays, you can be friends with whoever you want, you can have sex with any sex outside of marriage and have access to porn, you can marry who you want, you can adopt children, there are social safety nets for the elderly that don't depend directly on your children, and the population (at least in the US) isn't exactly in decline.
And is romantic love even a thing distinct from some intersection of likability and sexual attraction? lets say I as a heterosexual male decided to get married to another male friend for the sake of financials, adoption, etc, get our sexual release from just watching porn, and adopt a kid to satisfy desires to be a parent, etc.
Would I actually be missing out on something just because I don't have the sexual attraction component of the marriage? So maybe framed in that way, is it worth working for an actual romantic relationship when you could hypothetically get most if not all of the benefits from a platonic one? Maybe it even turns out better on average if you don't feel the need to cut your search space by half a dimension you might not even care about?
Men Are More Satisfied By Bromances Than Their Relationships
Young men get more emotional satisfaction “bromances”—close, heterosexual friendships with other males—than they do romantic relationships with women, according to a small new study published in Men and Masculinities.
Intimate male friendships have become more socially acceptable in recent years, say the study authors, and that’s largely a good thing. But they caution that the shift could lead to weaker bonds among dating or married couples, or even reduce the lihood of men and women pairing up at all.
The concept of the bromance isn’t new. George Washington wrote endearing letters to other men, the study authors note, and Abraham Lincoln shared a bed with a male friend for several years.
But close male companionship became more taboo in the second half of the 20th century, say researchers from the University of Winchester in England, due to a rise in homophobic sentiments and changing ideals of what masculinity should look .
In recent years, though, bromances have become cool again, the authors say—thanks in part to high-profile celebrity examples ( the Obama-Biden bromance) and movies The 40-Year-Old Virgin.
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To find out how much bromances mattered, they surveyed 30 heterosexual men who were second-year college students and had been in a relationship before, or were currently. The group was homogenous, to be sure; besides all being straight college students, all but one of the men were white, and all had a sports-related major.
The authors found that every one of them reported having at least one “bromantic” friend—with whom they engaged in “no-boundaries” behaviors sharing secrets, expressing love or sleeping in the same bed—at some time or another. 29 30 men said they had cuddled with their bromantic partner.
These findings may not apply to men beyond this very specific population, and more research is needed. The authors published their initial findings in May, in the journal Sex Roles. In their new analysis, they identify and explore the differences between those men’s bromances and their actual romances.
Overall, the students reported feeling less judged by their close male friends than by their girlfriends. In the words of one participant, “Tim knows I love listening to Taylor Swift and Beyonce, but I keep that quiet [around my girlfriend] because she would judge me. I feel I have to be more manly around her.”
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Men in the study also said it was easier to overcome conflicts and share their emotions— when a grandparent dies—with their guy friends, and to discuss sensitive health information. 28 30 said they would prefer to discuss personal matters with a bromance than a romance. “If I found a lump on my testicle, I’d talk to [my bromance] rather than my girlfriend,” one interviewee said.
When asked to describe the difference between a bromance and a romance, one man noted that there are three factors to consider: sexual attraction, emotional connection, and personality. “A bromance needs the last two,” he noted, while a romance needs two, including sex.
“There was a conclusive determination from the men we interviewed,” the study authors wrote. “On balance, they argued that bromantic relationships were more satisfying in their emotional intimacy, compared to their heterosexual romances.”
The fact that men are finally comfortable getting close with one another is a progressive step forward, say the authors, and they suggest that men may benefit greatly from long-term, same-sex friendships—especially if they’re not comfortable being emotionally intimate with women.
But they also express concern about traditional male-female relationships, writing that “the rise of the bromances may not altogether be liberating and socially positive for women.
” Men in the study sometimes referred to their girlfriends using sexist or disdainful language, they wrote, and demonstrated an “us and them” mentality that suggested allegiance to their “bros” over their romantic partners.
The authors even suggest that these changing cultural norms could even have implications for where and how men choose to live—opting to move in with a male roommate rather than a girlfriend, for example, thus delaying or disrupting relationships that could eventually lead to marriage and starting a family. “Lovers are temporary,” one study participant said during his interview. “A bromance can last a lifetime.”
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Men may be more satisfied by bromances than their relationships
One of the tectonic shifts relationships are undergoing is the rise of “bromance” – an intimate relationship between heterosexual men that excludes sex.
Since the gradual decrease in homophobia and more tolerant social attitudes towards sexual diversity, homosexuality has become accepted as normal.
Being gay is not outright stigmatized any longer and even heterosexual men are permitted to engage in behaviors that were previously attributed to and expected only from women.
Many young men are more fashion-conscious than their contemporary female peers, yet they identify as heterosexual.
These changes in attitudes and behaviors have led to the rise of bromance: guys hugging each other, sharing secrets, sleeping in the same bed and generally behaving girls. They are free to openly show affection for each other, something that was regarded as a no-no in previous times.
The research study revealed a number of surprising findings
Professors Stefan Robinson, Adam White, and Eric Anderson of the University of Winchester in the U.K. interviewed 30 second-year university students, all of whom had experience (either currently or in the past) with a bromance as well as a romantic relationship with a woman.
The study was titled “Privileging the Bromance: A Critical Appraisal of Romantic and Bromantic Relationships” and reported online in the journal Men and Masculinities. It revealed some surprising aspects of this new relationship style.
The researchers set out to find out how heterosexual undergraduate men compare their experiences of bromances to their romantic relationships with women.
The biggest takeaway: many men find their close male friendships more emotionally satisfying than relationships with women. As one writer put its, young millennial men choose bromance rather than romance.
What do men get from these relationships?
Here’s the thing: men really get a lot from these relationships.
Bromances allow men to disclose personal matters, share secrets with each other that they don’t share with anyone else, openly express emotions and experience feelings of trust, love and vulnerability.
What about sex?
Bromances include a lot of hugging and cuddling, even sleeping in the same bed, but no sex.
Since commitment in a romantic relationship is no longer a requirement for sex and young men and women engage in casual sex, getting sex outside the bromance is not a problem.
This state of affairs is troubling social scientists.
Dr Stefan Robinson, of the University of Winchester, said the results were ‘significant and worrying’ for women and warned there is an emerging culture of sexism and disdain in the way millennial men view the opposite sex.
“These heterosexual millennial men cherish their close male friends, so much so that they may even provide a challenge to the orthodoxy of traditional heterosexual relationships,” Dr Robinson told The Telegraph.
Some men prefer talking about emotions with other men
In these responses you can deduce the reasons why long-term relationships between men and woman may be in serious jeopardy: 28 of the 30 survey respondents said they would rather talk about emotional issues with their male friends than girlfriends. The majority also said it was easier to resolve conflicts with men, and admitted they kept secrets from partners which they shared with male friends.
“Given that young men are now experiencing a delayed onset of adulthood, and an extended period of adolescence, men may choose to cohabit as a functional relationship in the modern era.
“Because heterosexual sex is now achievable without the need for romantic commitment, the bromance could increasingly become recognized as a genuine lifestyle relationship, whereby two heterosexual men can live together and experience all the benefits of a traditional heterosexual relationship.”
Men perceive women to be “regulators of behavior”
“There are however significant and worrying results here for women,” Dr said Robinson. “These men perceived women to be the primary regulators of their behavior, and this caused disdain for them as a whole in some instances.
“Much in the same way that women are portrayed in contemporary cinema as objects for male gratification several of the participants spoke of women they knew in a generally negative way.”
What are we seeing here? Men having multiple relationships: one with a close male friend that he shares all his precious secrets with and a relationship with a woman, or women, that he shares only sex with. Any woman any time, but one bro back at home. Neat.
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Empathic people have an incredible ability to draw others toward them and tend to have really charismatic personalities.
They are the kind of people who can read a room, and read your thoughts. Not literally of course, but they can pick up on your body signals and tell how you are feeling.
Don’t try to hide who you are from an empathic person because they’ll be able to see right through you. Empaths have some really unique personality characteristics that others don’t possess.
Let’s take a look, so you know what you are dealing with the next time you encounter this kind of person.
1) They Are Pretty Sensitive
Good or bad, empathic people are very sensitive. They aren’t just sensitive regarding their feelings; they are also sensitive to certain sounds, lights, places, and people.
They take in all of the energy around them, and it can be exhausting for them to be in certain places with certain people at certain times. They are sponges soaking up everything around them.
“Empaths are sponges who absorb the thoughts, feelings and sensations around them,” licensed psychotherapist Lisa Hutchison, LMHC, tells Bustle. “If you are talking to someone [who is] depressed then you may notice you feel down afterwards.”
Empaths are good at a lot of things but keeping their feelings and emotions to themselves is not one of them. And that’s not a bad thing. You’ll always know what you are getting and where you stand with an empath.
According to Judith Orloff in Psychology Today M.D, “Empaths experience the world through their intuition. It is important for them to develop their intuition and listen to their gut feelings about people.”
They feel it it is, and when they follow their intuition they express emotions openly and freely and don’t worry about what others think of that display of emotion.
They love hard, live hard, play hard, and then drop at the end of the day from exhaustion. They put it all out there, so there’s no question about what they are feeling.
3) Crowded Rooms Are Not For Them
Because empaths absorb so much energy from people, it can be hard for them to be in a crowded room or at a party. It might even be difficult for them to work for large organizations that employ hundreds of people.
According to licensed psychotherapist Lisa Hutchison, LMHC, “Empaths are easily over-stimulated by noise because their focus is often outward rather than inward.”
Empathic people feel a duty to listen and to engage with others to help them, but this drains them of their energy as well. It’s very interesting to think of someone who cares so much for other people being drained by their acts of giving and listening.
If an empath is feeling down or sad about something, they will spend a great deal of time on their own trying to get to the bottom of those feelings.
According to Judith Orloff in Psychology Today M.D, “They tend to be introverted and prefer one-to-one contact or small groups. Even if an empath is more extraverted they may prefer to limit how much time they spend in a crowd or at a party.”
They never blame others for how they are feeling; they take ownership of their wild emotions. They understand themselves enough to know that they just need some time to work on things, and they’ll be back in the saddle in no time. Spending time in their own heads and healing their hearts helps them be happier people.
5) Those Feelings Aren’t Going Away
If you know an empathic person, you have probably realized that they aren’t going to check those feelings anytime soon. Their thoughts, emotions, and feelings part of what makes them who they are, and they embrace that about themselves.
Davida Rappaport, a psychic and spiritual counselor tells Bustle, “If you are highly sensitive and cry easily, especially when someone hurts your feelings, you are definitely an emotional person. But you may also be an empath,”
Empaths know they can become exhausted from being around too many people or different types of people, but they also know that their characteristics can become exhausting to others as well. They are a lot to handle. Just know that they aren’t going to change. They happen to the way they are, thank you very much.
6) They Give Great Advice
If you ever have the chance to ask an empathic person for some advice, do it. And take the advice. Because they are such great listeners and because they internalize conversations, they can easily put themselves in your shoes and offer you advice about what they would do.
“You may find that you’re in sync with some people from time to time,” Davida Rappaport, a psychic and spiritual counselor tells Bustle. “If both of you keep saying things , ‘We are on the same page,’ ‘I was thinking (or feeling) the same thing,’ or ‘You took the words right my mouth,’ you are definitely connected to the other person.”
They can physically imagine themselves doing those things and can evoke emotions to go along with it. Not only will you get some good ear time with an empath, but you might also walk away with some really great solutions to your problems.
7) They Become Distracted Quite Easily
One of the quirkiest things about empaths is that for how focused they are in life, they are actually easily distracted as well. They see all the bright and shiny things in life, and they see the dark corners too.
Davida Rappaport, a psychic and spiritual counselor tells Bustle, “You may discover that you are unable to think clearly if you have a lot of thoughts and feelings swirling around you.”
If they are working on a project that is important to them, they can find room in their life for another project of equal importance. While many people would crumble under such a squirrely personality trait, empaths know that those things caught their attention for a reason and must be attended to.
It’s part of their unique character traits that make them who they are, and they love that about themselves. Nothing gets missed, and nothing gets left behind.
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Men Get More Satisfaction From Bromances Than Romantic Relationships
There's nothing better than a good bromance, especially when it's between a President and his Vice President. But according to one study, bromances actually give men more satisfaction than their romantic relationships. The study, published in the journal Men and Masculinities, found that in recent years intimate male friendships have become more socially acceptable.
And as a result, bromances could be leading to weaker bonds among dating or married couples, or even reducing the lihood of men and women pairing up at all.
The study states that bromances aren't exactly anything new. George Washington wrote endearing letters to other men and Abraham Lincoln shared a bed with a male friend for several years.
However, intimate friendships became more taboo in the second half of the 20th century according to researchers from the University of Winchester in England. They believe that homophobic sentiments and new ideals on masculinity drove male friends more apart.
In recent years, though, bromances have made a resurgence, thanks to high-profile celebrity examples Obama and Biden, as well movies and other forms of media The 40-Year-Old Virgin.
To find out how satisfying bromances were to the men involved, the study surveyed 30 heterosexual second-year college students who had been in a romantic relationship before, or were currently.
All the men had a sports-related major all but one were white.
The researchers found that all the men had at least one bromantic friend, and that they had “no boundaries” relationships with them, which included expressing love or sleeping in the same bed. All but one of the men claimed that they had cuddled their bromantic partner at some point.
The men felt less judges by their close male friends than their girlfriends and felt more satisfied by the relationship as a result. One participant said:
“Tim knows I love listening to Taylor Swift and Beyonce, but I keep that quiet [around my girlfriend] because she would judge me. I feel I have to be more manly around her.”
The men also said it was easier to overcome conflicts and share their emotions with their bromance than with their girlfriend, with 28 30 saying they would discuss personal matters with their bromance over their girlfriend.
“If I found a lump on my testicle, I’d talk to [my bromance] rather than my girlfriend,” one man said.
“There was a conclusive determination from the men we interviewed,” the researchers concluded. “On balance, they argued that bromantic relationships were more satisfying in their emotional intimacy, compared to their heterosexual romances.”
But they also warned that “the rise of the bromances may not altogether be liberating and socially positive for women.”
The men in the study sometimes referred to their girlfriend in sexist or disdainful language, a trend which the researchers concluded was representative of a “bros” over girlfriends attitude.
“Lovers are temporary,” one study participant said during his interview. “A bromance can last a lifetime.”
Men prefer bromance to romance, study says
A 2017 article suggests that men are more satisfied by 'bromances' than their romantic relationships with women, and one relationship expert has agreed wholeheartedly.
Shelly Ann Weeks said that men, while not calling their closeness to other men a bromance, spend more time with men and are more inclined to share information with them than with their spouses.
She said that some men usually have friends from childhood, and for them, women cannot come between that because of how much significance they put on the relationship.
“I call them 'homosocial' men who spent most of their time with their male friends even though they are in relationships. You know the popular saying, 'bros before 'hoes'? That has a lot of truth to it because that is literally how they will have these long-term friendships with their male friends,” she said.
The article also says that men get more emotional satisfaction a bromance.
A survey was conducted with 30 heterosexual men and its results showed that men were very comfortable sharing secrets, expressing love and even sleeping in the same bed as other men.
Reggae artiste Tony Rebel said that men should not be looking to other men to share secrets and expressing love.
He said that the female partner should be the first person to whom they should be looking to share their vulnerability.
“Mi nuh have a problem to reason wid mi brethren dem, and if it come to the test weh all a wi affi pack up somewhere and sleep, mi nuh have no problem. Mi confident enough in my sexuality fi know seh, yeah, wi lay down pan a chair a sleep, but mi nuh prefer that. My preference would be lying down in a bed next to my woman,” he said.
He said that men usually have conversations where they share things they would not say in front of their women, but they are not classified as secrets.
Rebel said that men who would rather express love and 'secrets' to other men instead of their spouses are men 'on the low'.
“Mi feel seh dem man deh a half sea creature or supm because if mi get weak or vulnerable mi nah go show dem thing deh to me man friend dem. Mi rather show that to mi woman,” he said.
Weeks said men normally confide in them more because they trust them more.
“If dem brethren seh dem woman a cheat pan dem, dem more fi believe dem than the woman. There is no question about it. If their brethren say that, then that is what it is,” Weeks said.
Psychologist Dr Leahcim Semaj said that men are very cautious and vulnerable around women and they will more ly to express concerns to their male counterparts.
He said that men search for neutral ground to have conversations, such as at the barbershop, in fear of being judged by their wives or girlfriends.
“A lot of people define their masculinity in very specific ways. So you wouldn't want persons to know that you have certain kinds of weaknesses. It takes a lot of effort for a man to be at the place where he is vulnerable,” he said.
Research: Men More Satisfied By Bromance
Are you currently in a relationship with a man? Or even dating casually? Do you feel that your relationship is satisfying, that your connection is one you rely on and cherish?
Well, though your man may be as straight as a toothpick, you might wanna listen up to what we’ve just discovered in a recent study.
Hopefully, it’s not quite as shocking to you as it was for me to discover that, as a whole, young men get more emotional satisfaction friendships with other males than they do with their girlfriends.
The magazine Men and Masculinities set out to learn how much bromances were valued when compared to romantic relationships, so they performed a study.
They talked about conflict resolution, emotional disclosure, social fulfillment, and how comfortable men were with discussing any of these things with their girlfriend or wife and then with their best friend.
After interviewing 30 heterosexual males, the answer was clear that their bromances were much more stimulating and valuable to them.
Looks we’re fighting a losing game, girls. Men simply relate more and feel more at ease with other men! I mean, just look at all the celebrity bromances Jimmy Fallon and Justin Timberlake, Seth Rogen and James Franco, or Obama and Biden.
Those bonds are unshakeable. Where did we go wrong?
It’s hard to even be mad about it! I mean, have you watched Jimmy and Justin together? Their outrageously hilarious and, at the same time, totally endearing!
Another magazine, Time, noted that the authors say the results of this study are actually quite positive – the fact that male friendships aren’t frowned upon. Unfortunately, however, they also see the danger it could impose on romantic relationships.
The type of men that were interviewed in this study were second-year college students who were either currently in a relationship or had been at some point in the past; they were all heterosexual.
What each man had in common was that everyone had a best friend – a male one – who they’d opened up to, shared a bed with at least once, or expressed a level of love to. These bromances were what they set out to compare romantic relationships to.
Honestly, their thoughts on the topic don’t come as a surprise. Sometimes we women can be high-maintenance and have high standards.
So, naturally, they said that they predominantly felt that conflicts were easier to overcome with other men, that they were less judged, and that they had greater ease in sharing dreams, emotions, and sensitive health issues with their male friends, as well.
Makes you think, doesn’t it? In general, we’re not easy to talk to, and we’re judgmental – or so these men say. How true is it?
One participant said:
“Lovers are temporary. A bromance can last a lifetime.”
Well, at least they were honest about it right? Definitely good to know where the guy is at with commitment before you go out on that blind date tonight.
I guess we can’t judge them all this study, though; that would, of course, be very judgmental of us, wouldn’t it?